For the Ladies on "The One"

"The One"

Let's be honest ladies, we've all thought about it. Wondered who it will be. What he's going to be like. How the relationship goes. Etc. Etc. Etc.

The reality of it is, there is no such thing as "the one".

If we take a step back and look at every other aspect of our relationship with God we can see how God makes beauty out of mistakes or shortcomings. Food for thought: you, as a woman (just like me), have either entered into a dysfunctional relationship or two (can I get an amen), or have lusted after the idea of a relationship and fantasized about one (can I get another amen).

Considering all of those real or fantasized relationships, you've already (theoretically) ruined the intended plan with "the one" because you were only meant for him.
Are you tracking with me?

Thinking back on all of my relationships and how I thought about each boy differently is testament to the fact that there is no "one" out there. I learned life-lessons from each relationship, lessons that only those situations would have taught me. Yes, I think God could have (and would have) done the work in my heart eventually, but I think those dysfunctional relationships played a big role in the (ever-continuing) refining process God has me in.

I remember last year I was in an ethics class and a very controversial issue came up. My professor brought up masturbation (it was an ethics class, so issues like this were bound to come up!). He sat in front of the class and told us that there was nothing biblically wrong with it. I couldn't argue with him on that point, but something in my spirit wasn't settling right. So I (because meekness isn't my strong suit) piped up and said "Well, it may not say that its wrong in scripture... but you can either spend time with however long it takes you to get yourself off, or you can spend time with God and let him do a work in your heart." (not my most Christ-like moment.... But thinking that way has stuck with me)

Thinking about guys is the same for us as women. Its not wrong to wonder and think about the future, but you don't have to. God says in his word to let tomorrow worry about itself (We don't have to think on the future and wonder). Its not wrong to desire love and a relationship. We were made for relationship with one another. Just remember that you're already in one!

My first love is Jesus, and he always will be that. Because I spend the rest of eternity with him. Just me and him. If God sees fit for me to get married while here, then it is going to be a blip in time compared to the eternity I spend with my first love. God took me on that journey this summer (I talk about it in the "Desert" post), and he showed me that its me and him for the rest of eternity, thats why he comes first. It does no good to dwell on the "what if"s and "maybe so"s when we can sit in the "declares the Lord"s. That is where I desire to be. Dying to self is a constant struggle of mine (and I mean constant), but the glory of the gospel is that I don't have to do it on my own. Jesus helps, because he is our bridegroom for the rest of forever.

The only time "the one" is true is when it's in reference to Jesus.